It helps to talk about it and find a way to not to feel helpless. Thank you for sharing and acknowledging the different burdens we carry. It has been a long trek, hasn’t it? Alongside personal crises, too. I never understood the sanctuary of grieving traditions until I sat shiva. The certainty of knowing process and traditions was a great comfort in a destabilizing time. Destabilization leads to brain washing and so many toxic things.
Yes, I think the ritual of tradition is so valuable in the shocking time of sudden grief. Having known steps, and steps that everyone knows and can support and assist with, is such a comfort. I've thought about that before--and about how my family has no ritual to lean on. Something to think about and plan for!
THIS! I keep saying to my husband that we have not faced our grief (and mistakes and learning) from the pandemic, so we can never move forward. Because we can't face our loss, we just keep hurting each other over and over again. I feel it deeply in the pit of my stomach. Thank you for acknowledging it.
It helps to talk about it and find a way to not to feel helpless. Thank you for sharing and acknowledging the different burdens we carry. It has been a long trek, hasn’t it? Alongside personal crises, too. I never understood the sanctuary of grieving traditions until I sat shiva. The certainty of knowing process and traditions was a great comfort in a destabilizing time. Destabilization leads to brain washing and so many toxic things.
So true, Christine ❤️
Yes, I think the ritual of tradition is so valuable in the shocking time of sudden grief. Having known steps, and steps that everyone knows and can support and assist with, is such a comfort. I've thought about that before--and about how my family has no ritual to lean on. Something to think about and plan for!
Sending love your way, my friend xo
THIS! I keep saying to my husband that we have not faced our grief (and mistakes and learning) from the pandemic, so we can never move forward. Because we can't face our loss, we just keep hurting each other over and over again. I feel it deeply in the pit of my stomach. Thank you for acknowledging it.